Every Girl's Dream Guy?

I posted this a while back on Myspace, but I figure I'd put it up here as well. This spawned from a bulletin someone on Tagged posted. The bulletin is in red, and my response is underneath:

I know way too many really beautiful girls who think they don't look good... It hurts... because it's our fault, guys I mean. We make girls feel like they have to be perfect. You know what I mean, flat stomach, big boobs, round booty, long legs, sexy lips, and on top of all that, they have to dress like a whore, and be one as well... nobody can measure up to that... and its not fair... because nobody should have to. Girls prefer being called beautiful instead of hott or sexy. The little imperfections are what make people special. If everyone was perfect the world would be so boring, variety is what makes life interesting. So guys, stop making girls have to live up to your, I'm sorry, our... deluded fantasy visions of perfection. Stop acting like boys and start being men... realize that women don't exist to fufill our sexual desires. Stop talking to them solely to get with them, be nice to them because you want to be their friend, not because you want to hook up with them. Say nice things about them not to flatter them in hopes that you'll get some, but because its true and you know they like to hear them. In short... we need to grow up and stop acting like freakin little boys. Not every woman on Tagged is on here to get laid!!! They want a friend, and understanding friend that will respect them.

Girls who agree repost as every girls dream guy. and to the few guys who have balls and agree repost this as ive got balls....

No offense to you ladies, but to be honest, most women aren't ready for that kind of treatment. Reason being is because they're usually as focused (if not more so) on the guy's physical appearance, to the point that they don't even bother giving the guy a chance to prove he isn't after her goodies, but just wants to find out more. In the rare instance a girl does give him a chance, and realizes he is a genuinely nice guy, she ends up "cherishing their friendship" so much that they don't even give him a fair shot at being more than a friend. Meanwhile, the same girl cries on his shoulder whenever she gets hurt by a sexy assclown, realizing that he wanted sex and nothing more, only for her to say effed up stuff like "if only more guys could be like YOU" to Mr. Nice Guy as he holds her while she spills her shame all over his shoulder. 

This, in turn, can lead to one of two reactions. The first is frustration and anger, which causes him to resent women as a whole. That resentment causes him to start treating women the same way the manwhores do, like objects. He figures at least he'll be able to get some degree of satisfaction out of the deal, as carnal and basic as it may seem. A friend of mine has a saying: "Which came first? The man who's nothing but a dog, or the woman who made him that way?" In this instance, a dog has been born. 

The other most common reaction is much more passive. These scenarios gradually deflate his masculinity to the point that he accepts his fate and continues this vicious cycle, either with the same girl or any others he crosses paths with. These guys are real troopers, because they stand by their conviction that he will find a woman who will truly appreciate him as the nice guy he is, and he will shower him with all the love and affection she deserves. The problem with this is that he holds this in until he meets a woman who is willing to take it to that next level, but then starts to go overboard with the affection. 

Now, from what I've observed with ladies (and I don't make myself out to be an expert by any stretch of the imagination), ya'll like a stringent, perfect balance. There can't be too much masculine, alpha male individuality, but there also can't be too much selflessness. Too much of one throws most of ya'll off. The thing is, the alpha male bs is the expected bs, so ya'll have tempered your expectations to react better to it. The over-showering of affection, however, is usually uncharted waters. 

Whenever a guy pours on the affection in abundance, it can cause several types of reactions. One common reaction is to send ya'll running, which makes him even more insecure and confused, because he thought the selflessness and affections and emotions is what ya'll wanted in the first place, which then causes him to start thinking irrationally, causing erratic behavior. Congratulations, ladies. You are now the owner of a brand new stalker. Some others realize what's going on, and know in their heart of hearts that they KINDA like him, but not that much, but LOVE all the gifts and the idea of having a stepping stool that's not going anywhere. This leads to the golddigger/trick relationship. Most of the remaining percentage also realizes what they have, but can actually appreciate it instead of trying to get over, and while they may not share the same level of feelings, they certainly don't want to lose him, because they know they've found a diamond in the rough. So they get married, and from there, the relationship may or may not last. This really depends on the individuals' personality compatibility, with finances and environmental factors playing part as well. With that many variables, it's difficult to determine whether a woman will stick with a guy who loves her more that she will ever love him (if she even loves him at all). So that leaves, what, about 1% left? Who might that be, you ask? Why, the soul mate, of course (and yes, I do believe in soul mates, although I DON'T believe that soul mates always end up together). Then again, 1% may be too high of a number to represent the number of soul mates that end up together.

So, what do you think? Does the blame lay squarely at the male population's feet, or do women need to do a bit of self-analysis before complaining about not finding a good man?